Written by John C. Maxwell

Tuesday Evening, 08.10.10 at 7:00 P.M.


This week we look at an author that is sometimes criticized for his content as being simplistic and relying far too heavily on anecdotal support. The ideas are simple. It is often in the application that concepts become a real struggle. True connection involves a lot of moving parts, not just in terms of job searches but in how we relate to significant others, family members, neighbors, doctors, retail persons… and to all of the persons that cross our lives. Most don’t give much thought to connection unless problems develop. Then often it is too late to alter our style or change the consequences. Maxwell offers some excellent suggestions and real metrics to apply to our connecting forays. Much here to attempt to cover in one evening…

 A “FEW” Maxwell points for elaboration and discussion:

  •  Why bother? Will getting terrific at connecting really propel my job search, career, personal relationships?
  • Are there specific metrics that can be applied so that you know your impact?
  • How would you rate yourself as a connector?
  • How do others rate you? Go ahead, ask a few…
  • What are the basic skills of connecting?
  • What are the master skills of connecting?
  • I SAID, great listening skills aid strong connection!
  • Do you have to be “on” all the time to be a great connector?
  • What does “authenticity” have to do with connecting? Can you fake it?
  • Arrogance, indifference, control, self-absorption and other saboteurs of the well-connected life…
  • Who have been the connecting all-stars in your life? Coaches? Leaders? Politicians? Who are the greats and why?
  • Can you think of any “worst-in-class connectors?” Why are they important?
  • Are there commonalities between great connectors?
  • Are some places better connection zones than others?
  • What about pitfalls? Have you ever blown an important chance to connect?
  • What are the differences between attempting to connect with an audience, a group, or an individual?
  • Would you describe your personal connecting strategy as a “coping strategy” or a “proactive grid-building strategy?” What are the differences and why?
  • Why do some people equate connecting with talking and talking more and more?
  • What are some dangerous actions that drown out connecting words?
  • Do you know, really know, your connecting purpose?
  • How much of your energy should you expend on connecting?
  • The dangers of making assumptions with connections…
  • How do you handle connecting with poor connectors, irritating connectors?
  • What are the differences between connecting “live” and via “written” formats?
  • Why and how do master class connectors make a point of creating a wonderful experience for those that they desire to connect to?

If you don’t live it,

it won’t come out your horn. 

Charlie Parker, musician

The highest achievers do certain things that many others overlook or undervalue. Mountains are not climbed with huge leaps; it is the small and carefully placed footsteps that lead one to the peaks and back. Let’s climb this objective together?

Inviting you to connect with us,



Connecting at Steak & Shake as always following:

Please do bring your business cards so that you can connect with the other good folks attending. As always, following group we will swing over to Steak & Shake.


$timulus: An open book and networking group for job seekers

WHEN/WHERE:  We meet every Tuesday night at 7 P.M. at Barnes & Noble in the Streets of West Chester (I-75 Exit 19 Union Centre Blvd., Past The Rave Theater) 9455 Civic Centre Boulevard, West Chester, OH 45069                    

THE RELAXED APPROACH: Summer attire is welcome! We pull up the easy chairs at Barnes & Noble and add a few more near the Cookbooks or the SciFi area, do an overview of the book(s) of the day and then open up discussion on the talking points. No prior reading or book purchases are ever required. Much of our focus is on social media, personal branding and networking for jobs.


Join us, won’t you?


Monte Washburn





About MonteWashburn

Greetings, Please allow me to introduce myself. I am Monte, a passionate lover of a great spectrum of nonfiction books and authors and in hoping to provide some guidance to the many currently unemployed or under-employed persons much of the content posted here will revolve around books of the job search, career, entrepreneurial pursuits and personal development. Other related blogs and material will be heralded here as well. And a little fiction just may sneak in as well from time to time. May you find your own stimulus here. Expectantly, Monte
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